Minute 685: Shells and Pits

The girls cleared off the table after the brachah party and filled garbage bags with the shells and pits of the different fruits that were served. Watermelon rinds, date pits, orange peels, almond shells and the detritus of other assorted delicacies filled the bags quickly.

“Wow! I never realized how many pounds of garbage we must dispose of after a two-hour get-together!” Shani exclaimed.

“It’s worth it,” Ruth declared. “After all the hard work we put in to learn about brachos, and the effort and expense of making a party, it was nice to have fun together as a group.”

“I agree,” Shani said. “But do you realize that since we paid by the pound, we’re throwing out a lot of the money we spent?”

“True,” Ruth agreed. “But if you want the delicious tastes, you have to expect there will be some waste as well.”

When people purchase fruits, they know they will discard the inedible portion of the produce. Although this was included in the total weight of the produce for which they paid, they don’t mind because they want to enjoy the edible parts of each sweet treat.

The same isn’t true when people evaluate relationships. Many people do not befriend another because of a weakness or flaw in the other’s character. Although that person may exhibit admirable traits as well, people will sometimes reject the whole person because of the imperfect parts.

One should try to judge others in the way they would like others to judge them. No one is perfect; not even you. If you want to benefit from the good others have to offer, learn to accept their weaknesses as well. It’s part of the package. Even your favorite fruit has some waste.

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

Even if you are completely submerged in the destructive murky waters of sin and your connection to Hashem becomes “waterlogged” — the reality is that if you completely immerse yourself within the pure confines of the Holy Torah, allowing your soul to “dry up” from “sin damage,” you will discover that you have not lost the ability to once again connect to purity and holiness. (Yaakov Shain and Avi Fishoff, GPS, Navigation for the Soul, p. 125)


Rabbi Raymond Beyda serves in the Sephardic Community in Brooklyn, N.Y. He lectures to audiences all over the world. He has distributed over 500,000 recorded lessons free of charge. He is author of the book 1 Minute With Yourself: A Minute a Day to Self-Improvement, Sephardic Press, 2008.