Minute #485: Complete Picture

“You really should try and be more patient with Mrs. Levine,” Batsheva said. “I know you’re trying, but I think it’s important that you attempt to control yourself just a little bit more when dealing with her.”

“That’s easy for you to say!” Aliza huffed. “She is not ruining productivity in your department. It’s my team that is suffering. Everything she does takes so long. And she’s so clumsy!”

“She would probably be very upset with me for telling you this, but I feel I must save you from misjudging another,” Batsheva said. “Not many people know that about 15 years ago, Mrs. Levine was saved from a horrible fire. It took several months before she was released from the hospital, but that was only the beginning of her climb back to a normal life. Several reconstructive surgeries and months of physical and occupational therapy enabled her to start a new life. All that she now does was relearned and took superhuman effort on her part. Never did she question and never did she complain. What we have today is a miracle of a lady who does her best every day to be just like everyone else.”

“I feel so guilty,” Aliza admitted. “Had I known the whole story, I would have been in awe of her clumsy mannerisms, realizing how much she has done to achieve that level of dexterity!”

We all judge people all the time. In order to make a fair assessment of another’s strengths and weaknesses, it’s important that we have all the facts. So often, what we don’t know would change our opinion 180 degrees. Before you make an evaluation of another, make sure that you see the complete picture.

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

A fundamental principle of a good marriage is the belief and realization that your spouse is the most important person in your life. As Rav Pam explains, when a woman walks around her husband seven times under the chuppah, she is proclaiming that from then on he is the center of her universe. (Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss, Meaningful Living, p. 108)