Q: A neighbor asked me if I know of available apartments for her guests for her daughter’s Shabbos sheva brachos. Is it right to tell her about a family I know is going away for Shabbos, or must I suspect that they wouldn’t agree and it would cause contention?
Also, is it correct to tell someone about a neighbor who has a popcorn maker, fax machine or other electrical appliance, or must I suspect that they won’t agree to lend it?
A: If you assume that the family will agree to give their apartment for Shabbos, or you don’t know what their reaction will be, you may tell the baalas simchah about the possibility. The same holds true regarding electronics, etc. If you assume that they’d be willing, or you don’t know, then you can tell your neighbors about it. You should, however, not publicize the fact that the neighbor has a specific appliance, and only tell someone about it in private. If you have reason to think that your neighbors wouldn’t want to lend their apartment or electrical appliance, do not suggest it.
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