Positive Parenting

The Out-of- the-Box Child

Q: My 14-year-old son is so different from his father that my husband just can’t relate to him. My husband is super conventional and always careful to follow rules. My…

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Differing Opinions on a Dependent Adult Daughter

Q: I have heard only too often about the idea of parents presenting a “united front” to their children, even if the parents’ opinions actually differ. Sometimes my husband and…

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Am I Giving Enough?

Q: I have a very hectic schedule. I help take care of my elderly mother, I have a job where I put in 30 hours a week, and I have,…

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My Child Won’t Talk

Q: My four-year-old daughter is starting kindergarten now, and I’m very concerned about a problem she had last year in nursery: She barely spoke to any classmates or teachers! (She…

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The Fearful Child

Q: Our 6-year-old daughter has recently become extremely fearful and I’m not sure of the cause of this new mindset. She says she is afraid of a burglar entering our…

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My Way or the Highway

Q: My nine-year-old son is a real akshan, and he is becoming more and more stubborn as time goes on. If he were an only child, he’d probably be much…

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How Much Hishtadlus?

Q: I’ve become frustrated in recent weeks as I wait to hear from the mesivta that my son very much wants to attend. They said they would contact us by…

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Too Stiff-Necked?

Q: We make jokes in our family that we are clear reflections of the am kshei oref (stiff-necked people), as we all have definitive opinions on many topics and emotions…

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Bully Target?

Q: I’ve heard various approaches on how to respond to a bully who has set his sights on you. Since the problem of bullying persists in our schools, I think…

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Therapy Overload

Q: My eight-year-old son received many services from the local school district this past year. Now, for the coming year, his school wants him to receive “socialization skills training.” He…

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Is She Telling the Truth?

Q: My husband and I have been having a difficult time lately with our 15-year-old daughter. She’s a little bit of a “sandwich” child — not the oldest or the…

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Creating Realistic Expectations

Q: I consider myself a giving parent, but I purposely set limits when it comes to my children’s requests for material things. It doesn’t really seem to help, though, because…

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Parenting on the Run

Q: My nine-year-old son is always “ready to run” — so he keeps me and my husband running as well! He can act so impulsively that I don’t know where…

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The Dangers of Perfectionism

Q: I have a daughter starting first grade in September and I’m concerned about her ability to adapt and meet the expectations that come with being a first-grader. I am…

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Sensitive to Criticism

Q: My 15-year-old daughter is hypersensitive when it comes to hearing any criticism from family members. I feel like I need to walk on eggshells if I have to suggest…

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Reward for Misbehavior?

Q: I have appreciated your recent columns on the topic of self- esteem. But while what you write sounds good in theory, it doesn’t seem to work with our nine-year-old…

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Building Self-Esteem (Part 2)

Last week we spoke about the challenge of improving self-esteem in the child we consider particularly difficult. Behaviors and pitfalls that a frustrated parent needs to avoid were also discussed.…

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Building Self-Esteem (Part 1)

Q: Last week’s column spoke of building our own self-esteem, as adults, in order to serve as role models for our children. With regard to building self-esteem in our children,…

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Building Whose Self-Esteem?

Q: I have often heard about the importance of building a child’s self-esteem. Yet I find it very difficult to help my children with this, as I myself suffer from…

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War Zone Mediation

Q: I used to view myself as a pretty calm person and not particularly high strung. But after having children, I sometimes feel that I’m in a war zone. With…

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