Positive Parenting

Starting the New Year Afresh

Q: As the new year gets underway, I find myself looking back at past years and thinking about how I’ve been as a mother. I think my patience has improved…

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Too Much Therapy?

Q: My 7-year-old daughter has been mandated for a variety of services by the Department of Education, and my husband and I have different opinions about whether she should use…

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The Power of Positive Reinforcement

Q: As we begin the school year, I am taking a look back at my previous attempts to improve as a parent, and I see that my lack of consistency…

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Struggles of Sandwiched Child

Q: We are the parents of seven children, bli ayin hara, and feel that our second child is kind of losing his identity, being sandwiched in as he is between…

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Family in Turmoil

Q: Dear Shira, My family situation is quite unstable now, and it seems like my nine-year-old son is like a sponge soaking up all the negativity that is going around…

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Our Son Doesn’t Have Friends

Q: Our 12-year-old son is a lively child, but somehow making friends doesn’t come easy to him. It’s a funny thing, because boys will come over to our house to…

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My Son Wants to Join the Army

  Q: Dear Shira, We have a 14-year-old son who is entering mesivta, and he talks about joining the IDF as his ideal. He loves reading books on World War…

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My Son Feels Second Class

Q: My 9-year-old son, who is now in third grade, has had learning problems since pre-school. The issue wasn’t so much that he was a behavior problem; rather, he just…

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Sleep-Away Camp Challenges

Q: My 12-year-old daughter is in sleep-away camp this summer, and she seems to be having “teenage” issues, even though she is still only a pre-teen. She has decided that…

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Divorced-Dad Conundrums

Q: I am a divorced man with both teenage and younger children. My ex-wife, with whom I have joint custody, is not frum at this point in her life, and…

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A Falling Out Among Friends

  Q: I have a 10-year-old son with ADHD. He takes medication and is doing well in the special school he attends. The school has students with learning and behavioral…

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Divorce Problems

Q: I was married to my husband for 13 years, having had problems with our relationship for the majority of them. For years before the actual divorce, I had my…

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The Neighborhood Clique Is Excluding My Daughter

Q: My 9-year-old-daughter has been having conflicts with the other girls on the block and it’s become a major issue. It seems that certain girls get into their own exclusive…

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Defusing Fighting Between Siblings

In our previous column (June 3), we focused on the problem of a child having an overbearing nature and how to work with this type of child. The issue of…

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Older Sister Manipulates Younger Ones

Q: During the week we read Parashas Kedoshim, my children were discussing the idea of nekamah (taking revenge). It was particularly relevant to two of our daughters, who often take…

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An Almanah Seeks Guidance

Q: I am a mother of three children, and I lost my husband about four years ago. Two of my children have special needs — our daughter with her emotional…

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Different Chinuch Wave Lengths

Q: We are the parents of five children, the oldest of whom is a 15-year-old girl, and I’m coming across a major difference in the way that my husband and…

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Brothers in Conflict

Q: I’m writing to you about my two oldest sons, ages 12 and 14, who have an ongoing negative relationship with each other. My wife and I divorced about four…

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The Importance of Learning to Conform

Q: Our 14-year-old daughter has unfortunately been acting up in school in recent months. One issue is that she’s been just a little bit too chutzpadig when speaking to school…

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