Positive Parenting

Seeking a Seminary

Q: My daughter, who is in twelfth grade, is now applying to seminaries for next year. She very much wants to go to Eretz Yisrael, but I don’t know if…

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Adult Sibling Conflicts

Q: I know that you usually write about issues having to do with children of a younger age, but we are still parents once our children marry and leave the…

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Managing in Mesivta

Q: I have a 14-year-old ADHD son in a regular, local mesivta who fortunately spent all his younger years in a mainstream elementary school. We have always had Rebbeim and…

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Consenting to Compromise

Q: I have been married close to 13 years and since the beginning it has been a turbulent marriage. Our marital issues have recently intensified, as my husband’s erratic behavior…

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Calming the Combat Zone

Q: As I look back upon Yom Tov, I feel like I spent far too much time refereeing fights among my children. This began before Yom Tov, when it came…

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Starting the New Year Afresh

Q: As the new year gets underway, I find myself looking back at past years and thinking about how I’ve been as a mother. I think my patience has improved…

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Too Much Therapy?

Q: My 7-year-old daughter has been mandated for a variety of services by the Department of Education, and my husband and I have different opinions about whether she should use…

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The Power of Positive Reinforcement

Q: As we begin the school year, I am taking a look back at my previous attempts to improve as a parent, and I see that my lack of consistency…

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Struggles of Sandwiched Child

Q: We are the parents of seven children, bli ayin hara, and feel that our second child is kind of losing his identity, being sandwiched in as he is between…

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Family in Turmoil

Q: Dear Shira, My family situation is quite unstable now, and it seems like my nine-year-old son is like a sponge soaking up all the negativity that is going around…

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Our Son Doesn’t Have Friends

Q: Our 12-year-old son is a lively child, but somehow making friends doesn’t come easy to him. It’s a funny thing, because boys will come over to our house to…

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My Son Wants to Join the Army

  Q: Dear Shira, We have a 14-year-old son who is entering mesivta, and he talks about joining the IDF as his ideal. He loves reading books on World War…

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My Son Feels Second Class

Q: My 9-year-old son, who is now in third grade, has had learning problems since pre-school. The issue wasn’t so much that he was a behavior problem; rather, he just…

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Sleep-Away Camp Challenges

Q: My 12-year-old daughter is in sleep-away camp this summer, and she seems to be having “teenage” issues, even though she is still only a pre-teen. She has decided that…

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Divorced-Dad Conundrums

Q: I am a divorced man with both teenage and younger children. My ex-wife, with whom I have joint custody, is not frum at this point in her life, and…

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A Falling Out Among Friends

  Q: I have a 10-year-old son with ADHD. He takes medication and is doing well in the special school he attends. The school has students with learning and behavioral…

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Divorce Problems

Q: I was married to my husband for 13 years, having had problems with our relationship for the majority of them. For years before the actual divorce, I had my…

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The Neighborhood Clique Is Excluding My Daughter

Q: My 9-year-old-daughter has been having conflicts with the other girls on the block and it’s become a major issue. It seems that certain girls get into their own exclusive…

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Defusing Fighting Between Siblings

In our previous column (June 3), we focused on the problem of a child having an overbearing nature and how to work with this type of child. The issue of…

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