Positive Parenting

Joining — or Missing — the Class Trip

Q: I have a question regarding my 12-year-old son. He was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and is now attending a special school where they are working on…

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Sister Squabbles

Q: Bli ayin hara, we have a number of daughters, all of whom are close in age — sometimes too close for comfort. Our 14-year-old — the middle one —…

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Whose Fault Is It?

Q: Bli ayin hara, we have a number of very active children at home who, as you can imagine, all have different needs. Try as we might to make it…

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Managing a Single Parent Home in Transition

Q: Dear Shira, I am the mother of three children — a 14-year-old daughter and two sons, one age 10 and the other seven. At this point I’ve been separated…

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School Choices

Q: I’m facing a real dilemma regarding my 6-year-old son. His older brothers went to a neighborhood school, and we have been happy with it. The problem now is deciding…

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My Son’s Social Skills Need Improvement

Q: My 10-year-old son is severely lacking in social skills. It’s very difficult to point this out to him and show him where he goes wrong. When I describe ways…

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The Out-of- the-Box Child

Q: My 14-year-old son is so different from his father that my husband just can’t relate to him. My husband is super conventional and always careful to follow rules. My…

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Differing Opinions on a Dependent Adult Daughter

Q: I have heard only too often about the idea of parents presenting a “united front” to their children, even if the parents’ opinions actually differ. Sometimes my husband and…

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Am I Giving Enough?

Q: I have a very hectic schedule. I help take care of my elderly mother, I have a job where I put in 30 hours a week, and I have,…

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My Child Won’t Talk

Q: My four-year-old daughter is starting kindergarten now, and I’m very concerned about a problem she had last year in nursery: She barely spoke to any classmates or teachers! (She…

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The Fearful Child

Q: Our 6-year-old daughter has recently become extremely fearful and I’m not sure of the cause of this new mindset. She says she is afraid of a burglar entering our…

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My Way or the Highway

Q: My nine-year-old son is a real akshan, and he is becoming more and more stubborn as time goes on. If he were an only child, he’d probably be much…

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How Much Hishtadlus?

Q: I’ve become frustrated in recent weeks as I wait to hear from the mesivta that my son very much wants to attend. They said they would contact us by…

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Too Stiff-Necked?

Q: We make jokes in our family that we are clear reflections of the am kshei oref (stiff-necked people), as we all have definitive opinions on many topics and emotions…

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Bully Target?

Q: I’ve heard various approaches on how to respond to a bully who has set his sights on you. Since the problem of bullying persists in our schools, I think…

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Therapy Overload

Q: My eight-year-old son received many services from the local school district this past year. Now, for the coming year, his school wants him to receive “socialization skills training.” He…

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Is She Telling the Truth?

Q: My husband and I have been having a difficult time lately with our 15-year-old daughter. She’s a little bit of a “sandwich” child — not the oldest or the…

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Creating Realistic Expectations

Q: I consider myself a giving parent, but I purposely set limits when it comes to my children’s requests for material things. It doesn’t really seem to help, though, because…

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