Mishmeres HaSholom – Ask the Rav

Q: Sometimes when one of my children is acting up, I threaten to tell his father. If I want to create a serious atmosphere, I prepare a note for Tatty where I write what the child did. It recently dawned upon me that it might be forbidden to do this, and therefore would like to know if it would be considered “lashon hara in writing?”

A: Because you’re writing the notes for the constructive purpose of educating your children, it is permissible. You must be mindful of the conditions delineated by the Chofetz Chaim, amongst them, not to intend revenge, especially when you’re angry at their misconduct, not to exaggerate, and more.


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The views expressed are of the individual author. Readers are encouraged to consult their own posek for guidance.

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