Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Halachic queries answered by Harav Menachem Mendel Fuchs, shlita, Menahel Ruchani of Mishmeres HaSholom, posek in the Eidah HaChareidis and Rav of Kiryas Shomrei HaChomos

Q: As a mother of a large family, bli ayin hara, I was blessed with some unusually lively children who occasionally cross acceptable boundaries with their antics. Often, I share my children’s chochmos with family and friends, and unburden myself about all the trouble they’ve made. In order to avoid lashon hara, I’d like to know if there are guidelines for what I am allowed to relate.

A: A mother may share her children’s chochmos and antics with others. It would seem, however, that it is forbidden to tell about behaviors that are atypical of average children. The above holds true unless you are asking for advice on dealing with the problems that crop up with boisterous children, and it is being related l’toeles.

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The views expressed are of the individual author. Readers are encouraged to consult their own posek for guidance.