Minute 729: The Way It Is

Mordy Krausz was taken aback slightly when he saw his old friend Josh Rabinowitz heading for the checkout counter at the big box home improvement store. It was the last place he would expect to bump into him.

“I can’t believe my eyes!” he exclaimed. “How have you been?”

“Lately things have settled down, but I’ve certainly been through a lot since we last spoke,” Mr. Rabinowitz said.

“Are you still at Goldman’s place?” Mr. Krausz asked.

“I’d prefer if you didn’t remind me,” Mr. Rabinowitz answered. “I’m no longer there and I don’t know if I can ever forgive them for the treatment I received. After all my efforts on their behalf, my departure was not handled in a pleasant manner.”

“So are you working?” Mr. Krausz asked.

Baruch Hashem, now I’m working and doing well. But the pain is still eating at me.”

“If I were you, I’d forgive and forget,” Mr. Krausz advised. “It’s the best way. Actually, it’s the only way.”

Heavenly judgment mirrors earthly behavior. If one fails to forgive others, the Heavenly Court is deterred from forgiving that individual. We ask Hashem to look at us as we are — not as we were before we improved to our current status. We ask that He look at today — not our transgressions of the past. To deserve such treatment, we must treat others in kind. If we are willing to look at others as they are today rather than as they behaved in the past, we can expect a similar favor from Above. What counts is the way it IS!

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

There is no time in this world where there isn’t a combination of happiness and sadness simultaneously; happiness from one man and sorrow from a different man. Therefore, it’s certain that there is no perfect happiness and sorrow is constantly part of the mixture. Therefore our Sages said, “Yismach Hashem b’maasav — May the L-rd rejoice [future tense] in His works” (Tehillim 104:31). Only in the future will all of Creation be perfected and its joy complete without any sorrow spoiling it. (Harav Nosson Tzvi Finkel, in his Sichot)


Rabbi Raymond Beyda serves in the Sephardic Community in Brooklyn, N.Y. He lectures to audiences all over the world. He has distributed over 500,000 recorded lessons free of charge. He is author of the book 1 Minute With Yourself: A Minute a Day to Self-Improvement, Sephardic Press, 2008.