Minute 716:Could You Get Me…
“I don’t know if I’ll be able to, but I’ll try,” Tziporah said as she hung up the phone.
“What’s the mitzvah you’re turning down?” Faygie asked. “Maybe I could do it if it’s too difficult for you.”
“It’s not hard at all,” Tziporah said. “Mrs. Lublin on the fourth floor needs some milk from the mini-mart downstairs.”
“You’re always doing her errands, so how come you declined?” Faygie asked.
“I’ve got to study for a test, and when I go to Mrs. Lublin, she … well, should I say she likes to talk?” Tziporah said.
“Why don’t you call her back and say that I’ll get the milk,” Faygie said. “I think it may not be that she likes to talk; she may need to have some company.”
The prophet Yeshayah said (45:18): “He created it not in vain, He formed it to be inhabited.” Our Mussar masters expound that Hashem created a world that was meant to be a social environment within which people would interact and assist each other. People were not meant to live in solitude. Unfortunately, there are many who do not have the physical ability to get out and spend time with others. There are those whose inadequate social skills do not make others want to share time with them.
With so many organizations and gemachs available to serve the needs of others, we as individuals all have the opportunity to be a one-person chessed machine. To visit and listen to those who need an ear is a simple way to earn credits in the Heavenly calculator and to feel satisfaction and joy as well.
One More Second: Another Thought for the Day
Learn to differentiate between facts, inferences and value judgments. Facts do not make you happy or sad. It is only your value judgments that do. Unhappy or resentful people tend to make assumptions without sufficient evidence to know whether the assumptions are true or not. They prematurely or incorrectly assume that things are bad and harmful. Even if an inference is accurate, if you avoid a negative value judgment, you will not suffer. (Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Gateway to Happiness, p. 55)
Rabbi Raymond Beyda serves in the Sephardic Community in Brooklyn, N.Y. He lectures to audiences all over the world. He has distributed over 500,000 recorded lessons free of charge. He is author of the book 1 Minute With Yourself: A Minute a Day to Self-Improvement, Sephardic Press, 2008.