Minute 683: He Cares

“Come on, let’s go!” Robert urged. “What’s taking you so long? I’ve been waiting for you for quite a while. This Rabbi is a great speaker and he draws huge crowds. If we don’t hurry, we might not get in.”

“I’m cleaning off Rachamim’s table,” Sruly said. “I made a little mess and he’s very neat. I don’t want him to get upset when he arrives in the morning.”

“What mess?” Robert asked. “I saw a paper cup and a couple of tissues. That would never bother me.”

“It may not bother you, but I’m sure he wouldn’t like to find his place any different than the way he left it.” Sruly finished cleaning up and grabbed his coat. “Let’s go!” he called out, and rushed to the exit.

One should never judge another’s values by one’s own. To some, neatness is important; to others, quiet is a high priority. Some are concerned about the grass on their lawn while others are worried about being on time. You may not be particular about a clean, neat area for davening or learning, but others who share that space may consider it of utmost importance.

As people grow from children to old age they develop preferences. Some may be widely held and others may be unusual — but to them it is the way they like to live. Rabbi Eliyahu Lopian once said, “The definition of ‘life’ is ‘what you can never get enough of.’” To some it is jogging; to others, it’s crocheting. To some it is learning; to others, it’s doing favors for others. When satisfying yourself, don’t tread on someone else’s “life.”

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

You violate no laws by violating the laws of grammar; nevertheless you are probably careful not to speak incorrectly. All the more so, be careful not to violate the Torah laws of speech by insulting others. Schools spend hundreds of hours teaching students proper grammar and syntax. At least a partial amount of this time should be spent on stressing the importance of not causing pain with words. (Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, The Power of Words, p. 122)


Rabbi Raymond Beyda serves in the Sephardic Community in Brooklyn, N.Y. He lectures to audiences all over the world. He has distributed over 500,000 recorded lessons free of charge. He is author of the book 1 Minute With Yourself: A Minute a Day to Self-Improvement, Sephardic Press, 2008.