Minute #589: Away

“Did you hear from Rob today?” Mrs. Glickman asked. “I don’t think I’ve been in touch for over a week. I miss him so much.”

“Me, too,” Mr. Glickman agreed. “I thought we’d get used to him being away in Eretz Yisrael when he was in yeshivah, and I really never did. Then he got this good opportunity and moved away. Again I thought I’d get used to it, but I’m missing him more every day.”

“Sometimes the simple truths are the universal ones. Absence does, in fact, make the heart grow fonder,” Mrs. Glickman said.

Many believe human nature makes you appreciate what you have. In fact, the opposite is true. Most people don’t value their blessings until they are gone. The utensils you use daily, your phone and laptop, your car and appliances, are not really noticed as long as you have them. Should your car be in the shop for repairs or your cell phone get lost — then the value of the convenience is appreciated as the item is missed. Functioning without these aids is like walking with a leg cast. You’ll probably get where you’re going, but you won’t be happy during the trip.

More important than the modern conveniences are old-fashioned relationships. After someone from the “older” generation passes on, the younger people begin to realize how much they owe them. “I wish I would’ve spent more time with …” is a common refrain. The same is true of our children. While they are growing and are residing at home, we can never seem to find the time they so sorely need. After they grow and leave home to build their own families, we understand what we are missing. NOW is the time to devote time. Don’t delay.

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

Ultimately, you will derive more satisfaction from a simple home than from a luxurious one. If your house is modest, it will be good and faithful. Your children will learn to make do with little and to be content with whatever they have and the trait of contentment will accompany them throughout their lives. (Rabbi Eliyahu Porat Teherani,  Pathways to a Peaceful Home, p. 128)