“Wow, Chana, you really look slim!” Chavah exclaimed. “What’s your secret?”
“At my sister’s suggestion I went to see a nutritionist who wrote a special diet for me that cuts out a lot of the unhealthy foods I was eating and replaces them with healthy foods,” Chana said.
“I tried a nutritionist once but it didn’t really work for me,” Chavah said. “I filled my fridge and pantry with two weeks’ worth of healthy stuff but nothing changed and I went back to my regular routine.”
“I don’t think proper eating habits can be developed in two short weeks,” Chana replied. “A person has to put in the time and effort it takes to see results. If I were you I’d give it another try but I would stick to it for a much longer time period.”
How someone views oneself is called self-image. When the picture is positive it’s called good self-esteem. A successful person needs this important personality trait before one can perform to one’s optimum potential. Self-esteem, like good nutrition, cannot be ruined or developed in one attempt. Just as a short spell of eating healthy foods after years of ingesting junk food will have no noticeable effect, so, too, a short period a of praise and encouragement will not build a good self-image.
This lesson is crucial to successful child-rearing. To build healthy self-esteem in our children, we must feed them a steady diet of praise and encouragement for many years. Concurrently, we must refrain from negative words and attitudes in relation to them. Constantly give your children healthy foods for body and mind and watch them grow to succeed.
One More Second: Another Thought for the Day
The time for chessed, real chessed, is when our spouses need our forgiveness and our hearts. Hearts that are willing to look beyond the mistakes and frustrations of daily life and see the spouse’s true virtues and greatness. Hearts that are big enough to forgive. (Harav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg, zt”l, On The Torah Home, p. 33)