Minute #519: Talking Me Into It

“You look well, Harry,” Yosef commented. “Where have you been?”

“Thanks, Yosef,” Harry replied with an appreciative smile. “I just returned from Miami Beach.”

“Looks like you had good weather,” Yosef replied. “How was the trip?”

“Well, when you’re down there you automatically feel young. The senior citizen population is much larger there than it is up north,” Harry said.

“My mom goes down every winter, but she’s what you might call a young 80-year-old,” Yosef said. “In fact, when she’s up here I’m impressed with her busy schedule.”

“When I get older I hope I’ll be like her. But most of those I met were either coming from a doctor or planning their trip to the next specialist,” Harry said. “I guess that’s what old people do. I wonder what makes your mom different.”

“It’s simple. She thinks positive and she talks positive. She only allows her physical symptoms of age to occupy 15 minutes of her time each day.”

When one talks about something — anything at all — it makes an impression on the person’s mind. The more often one repeats it, the deeper the mark it makes.

One who speaks about not feeling well makes the condition worse. If one repeats it over and over, the “not feeling so well” becomes “I feel very sick.” To ignore one’s well-being is foolish; a person must address concerns. But one must learn how to keep the message under control. Speaking about an illness may be a technique to attract attention or to invoke sympathy. The practical reason for such discussion should be to seek proper advice as to how to overcome the illness.

Needless constant repetition will create a negative reality where one may not exist. Everyone has the ability to “talk themselves into something.” How much better it is to repeat the positive and create a happy reality for yourself!

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

The influence of a Jew’s blessing is endless. When a Jew blesses someone, he must put his heart into it, since if he is completely sincere Hashem will bring that brachah to fruition. (Rav Ovadiah Mansour, The Power of Hello, p. 27)