Minute #483: Really Want

“I’m not having much success this zman,” Yanki confessed. “I don’t know if it’s the masechet [tractate] or the chavruta [learning partner], but I am not learning as I should.”

“Can I be honest with you?” Tuvi asked. “I think I might see the problem from a different perspective than you do.”

“Go ahead. We’ve been friends for so long that if you believe you can help, I’d be a fool not to listen,” Yanki said.

“Remember the Midrash that says that Batya, the daughter of Pharaoh, stretched her arm across the water to recover the basket containing baby Moshe?” Tuvi asked. “It really was unreasonable for her to think her arm could reach that far. Yet she wanted it so badly that she tried and Hashem made her successful.

“I’m not so sure you have the same desire for learning that you had in the past, and without true desire, I’m afraid you are seeing the results.”

In order to fulfill our aspirations in life or to solve a problem, we must determine if we really want it or not. In Tehillim we say, “You open Your Hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing” (145:16). This teaches that Hashem provides in accordance with desire.

To get what one wants, one must desire it with all one’s heart. If one needs to escape a problem, one must truly want the difficulty to be solved. Often the reason for one’s failure to achieve a stated goal is insincerity or lack of desire. If you really want it, Hashem certainly can and will provide it — as long as He agrees it is in your best interest.

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

Chessed means giving up what is mine for the sake of the other, giving of myself for the other and even sacrificing myself entirely for the other. A chassid is an individual whose giving is an act of love, not of obligation or responsibility. (Rabbi Eliyahu Dessler, Michtav MeEliyahu, vol. 5, p. 35)