Minute #475: Homework

“I couldn’t get in any study time last night,” Chanoch complained to Noah. “I had to spend my whole night doing a report for my son’s homework.”

“Unlike you, I had plenty of time. I’ve made it a policy to have my kids do their own work,” Noah replied. “But what happened with your son?”

“His deadline to hand in his history report was today — and he dropped the assignment in my lap after dinner. That’s what I meant when I said my plans to study Torah didn’t become reality because I was too busy finishing homework for my son,” Chanoch explained.

“I personally think you had a double loss in your family last night. You didn’t get to prepare for today’s shiur and your son lost out on what he could have gained had he done his own homework,” Noah said. “The work a teacher assigns is not only to educate; it is also meant to teach personal responsibility.”

Those who are spoiled by others learn to rely on others to fulfill their responsibilities. People who are not trained to fend for themselves and produce what is expected will not be capable of fulfilling their duties and responsibilities as they age. In work and play, such individuals will wait for others to provide that which they themselves should achieve.

One day, they will finally realize that they — and no one else — must be responsible for  themselves.

Many people don’t understand individual responsibility. They expect someone — a boss, spouse or friend to get the job done. At best, one may expect to receive some help, but one’s happiness and growth is really up to the person himself. Be proactive. Depend on yourself for your fulfillment and for your growth.

One More Second: Another Thought for the Day

In three ways can a person’s true character be perceived: with his cup of wine, with his wallet and with his anger level. And some add: Also with his laughter. (Eruvin 65b)