Positive Parenting

Dealing With Dislike

Q: Our 8-year-old daughter definitely has an aggressive streak. We managed to convince her not to be friends with the more condescending and snobby girls in her class, but the…

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Imparting Advice to Adult Children

Q: I greatly appreciate your columns about dealing with adult children and your advice on how to continue being a good parent at any stage in life. I consider myself…

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Avoiding Demonstrations of Favoritism

Q: We are the parents of three children. The youngest is eight-year-old Zalmy*, who has two older sisters, ages 13 and 15. As Zalmy was a long-awaited brachah, he has…

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My Son Plays With the Younger Boys on the Block

Q: Summer brings neighborhood children outside more often to play, which has its good and bad points. My 13-year-old son is “on the spectrum” and has social issues. He is…

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Avoiding Undesirable Friends

Q: I can really relate to the parent who wrote in last week about her daughter being manipulated by a classmate. My daughter Fraidy* is in a similar situation. Unlike…

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Following a “Leader”

Q: Our 8-year-old daughter, Chavi*, is sharp and lively and well-liked. She has no reason to harbor feelings of being second-class in any way and should not need to gravitate…

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Please Don’t Compare Us To the Mechutanim!

Q: I’m writing to get your take on what are considered realistic expectations in relation to married children and their spouses. I feel like some of my sons- and daughters-in-law…

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A Positive Group Effect

Q: It’s at this time of the year that I really second-guess my abilities as a capable parent. There are so many details to deal with before the school year…

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Old Family Scripts

Q: On the topic of adult children, I find it quite interesting to observe a different aspect of sibling rivalry. When two sets of married children visit at the same…

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Here Comes the Bride… And Who Else?

Q: The letter you published about a boy’s upcoming bar mitzvah touched a chord in me. One of my daughters is getting married soon, and whom to invite presents a…

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The Bar Mitzvah Boy’s Parents Are Divorced

Q: As an aunt, I find myself in a situation where I want to help my nephew navigate his upcoming bar mitzvah. His parents went through a very difficult divorce…

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Social Issues at Camp

Q: My 14-year-old daughter went to sleepaway camp last summer with a close friend from her class. This friend was not very loyal in camp. She began to make new…

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Our Son Wants to Go to Sleepaway Camp

Q: Our 11-year-old son wants to go to sleepaway camp this summer. I am from Israel, my husband of 14 years is American, and we have different opinions on this…

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Dealing With a Family Member’s Illness

Q: Unfortunately, my mother has not been well in recent months. She now lives in a nursing facility, as she has dementia and can no longer be maintained at home.…

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Fighting Among Siblings

Q: Baruch Hashem, we have been blessed with a house with many-aged children, and sometimes, the “many opinions” of my children can be overwhelming. If your office was closer, I…

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Don’t Do Me Favors!

Q: As Pesach is over, I am looking back at the positive and negative times that my husband and I experienced over Yom Tov. All in all, I came away…

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Mutual Expectations

Q: I feel that my children could be doing more to help around the house. Not only are they not participating, but they expect that everything will continue as usual,…

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Sibling Conflict

Q: We have three sons, ages 10, 8 and 4. The eldest, Shloimy,* often has an “attitude problem” and becomes angered quite easily. His relationship with my husband is not…

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