Positive Parenting

Creating Warm Family Memories

Q: I have warm childhood memories of Chanukah, and would really like my children to have similar ones. But Chanukah 5778/2017 occurs in a different world than the one I…

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Respecting Your Child’s Feelings

Q: My 10-year-old son is receiving counseling services in school from a skilled and caring therapist. Last year, he had a very hard time getting along with his classmates. Although…

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Too Smart for Our Own Good?

Q: I can relate well to last week’s letter-writer who spoke about a charismatic child towards whom both adults and children easily gravitate. We have a 12-year-old son who possesses…

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Jealousy Among Siblings

Q: Our six-year-old daughter is very socially savvy — I don’t know how else to describe it. She’s tremendously helpful with guests; she can be very affectionate, and she truly…

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First Impressions in Shidduchim

Q: I have two older children who are not yet married and, as I’m sure you can guess, this puts great pressure on my husband and me. I know there…

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It’s Beginning to Feel Like a Burden

Q: Baruch Hashem, we had a lovely month of Yamim Tovim, and I know that I am fortunate to have a healthy and happy family. So I feel a little…

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Looking Back at Yom Tov

Q: Getting back on schedule after the Yamim Tovim has its pluses and minuses. The performance of ordinary daily activities provides a sense of order and structure, which I greatly…

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Drinking and Peer Pressure

Q: As the new year sets in and I begin to think ahead, I cannot help but recall some uncomfortable confrontations I had with my teenage sons last year in…

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Should I Go for Therapy?

Q: The oldest of my three children is a 21-year-old son who has had severe social issues and general anxiety for a number of years. He has gone to various…

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Different Schools for Different Sons

Q: We recently moved to a new neighborhood, and our three sons are entering new schools. The school they previously attended was not very competitive and was not focused on…

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Indecisive and Self-Doubting Teenager

Q: The oldest daughter in a family is often assumed to be very responsible and concerned about her younger siblings. This is not the case in our family; our 14-year-old…

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Disciplining a Son on The PDD Spectrum

Q: I find myself dealing with a very stubborn second-grader who questions everything I ask of him. Duvi* is the only child left at home; his married siblings live at…

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Strengthening Tefillah

Q: My son is 12 years old and still doesn’t get to shul on time. He doesn’t like it when we — his parents — wake him up; however, he…

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Dealing With Dislike

Q: Our 8-year-old daughter definitely has an aggressive streak. We managed to convince her not to be friends with the more condescending and snobby girls in her class, but the…

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Imparting Advice to Adult Children

Q: I greatly appreciate your columns about dealing with adult children and your advice on how to continue being a good parent at any stage in life. I consider myself…

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Avoiding Demonstrations of Favoritism

Q: We are the parents of three children. The youngest is eight-year-old Zalmy*, who has two older sisters, ages 13 and 15. As Zalmy was a long-awaited brachah, he has…

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My Son Plays With the Younger Boys on the Block

Q: Summer brings neighborhood children outside more often to play, which has its good and bad points. My 13-year-old son is “on the spectrum” and has social issues. He is…

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Avoiding Undesirable Friends

Q: I can really relate to the parent who wrote in last week about her daughter being manipulated by a classmate. My daughter Fraidy* is in a similar situation. Unlike…

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