Positive Parenting

Looking Back at Yom Tov

Q: Getting back on schedule after the Yamim Tovim has its pluses and minuses. The performance of ordinary daily activities provides a sense of order and structure, which I greatly…

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Drinking and Peer Pressure

Q: As the new year sets in and I begin to think ahead, I cannot help but recall some uncomfortable confrontations I had with my teenage sons last year in…

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Should I Go for Therapy?

Q: The oldest of my three children is a 21-year-old son who has had severe social issues and general anxiety for a number of years. He has gone to various…

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Different Schools for Different Sons

Q: We recently moved to a new neighborhood, and our three sons are entering new schools. The school they previously attended was not very competitive and was not focused on…

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Indecisive and Self-Doubting Teenager

Q: The oldest daughter in a family is often assumed to be very responsible and concerned about her younger siblings. This is not the case in our family; our 14-year-old…

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Disciplining a Son on The PDD Spectrum

Q: I find myself dealing with a very stubborn second-grader who questions everything I ask of him. Duvi* is the only child left at home; his married siblings live at…

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Strengthening Tefillah

Q: My son is 12 years old and still doesn’t get to shul on time. He doesn’t like it when we — his parents — wake him up; however, he…

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Dealing With Dislike

Q: Our 8-year-old daughter definitely has an aggressive streak. We managed to convince her not to be friends with the more condescending and snobby girls in her class, but the…

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Imparting Advice to Adult Children

Q: I greatly appreciate your columns about dealing with adult children and your advice on how to continue being a good parent at any stage in life. I consider myself…

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Avoiding Demonstrations of Favoritism

Q: We are the parents of three children. The youngest is eight-year-old Zalmy*, who has two older sisters, ages 13 and 15. As Zalmy was a long-awaited brachah, he has…

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My Son Plays With the Younger Boys on the Block

Q: Summer brings neighborhood children outside more often to play, which has its good and bad points. My 13-year-old son is “on the spectrum” and has social issues. He is…

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Avoiding Undesirable Friends

Q: I can really relate to the parent who wrote in last week about her daughter being manipulated by a classmate. My daughter Fraidy* is in a similar situation. Unlike…

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Following a “Leader”

Q: Our 8-year-old daughter, Chavi*, is sharp and lively and well-liked. She has no reason to harbor feelings of being second-class in any way and should not need to gravitate…

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Please Don’t Compare Us To the Mechutanim!

Q: I’m writing to get your take on what are considered realistic expectations in relation to married children and their spouses. I feel like some of my sons- and daughters-in-law…

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A Positive Group Effect

Q: It’s at this time of the year that I really second-guess my abilities as a capable parent. There are so many details to deal with before the school year…

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Old Family Scripts

Q: On the topic of adult children, I find it quite interesting to observe a different aspect of sibling rivalry. When two sets of married children visit at the same…

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Here Comes the Bride… And Who Else?

Q: The letter you published about a boy’s upcoming bar mitzvah touched a chord in me. One of my daughters is getting married soon, and whom to invite presents a…

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The Bar Mitzvah Boy’s Parents Are Divorced

Q: As an aunt, I find myself in a situation where I want to help my nephew navigate his upcoming bar mitzvah. His parents went through a very difficult divorce…

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Social Issues at Camp

Q: My 14-year-old daughter went to sleepaway camp last summer with a close friend from her class. This friend was not very loyal in camp. She began to make new…

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