Positive Parenting

‘I Only Want Mommy’

Q: My three-year-old daughter has been particularly fussy lately, especially during Yom Tov. Whenever she wanted something, even something simple like a drink of water, she would refuse to take…

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Bikur Cholim Expectations

Q: Sometimes I think the expectations I have of my children are unrealistic. The younger generation seems to be quite self-absorbed, and trying to inculcate the value of basic mentschlichkeit…

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Overwhelmed After Pesach

Q: Though some people complain about the stress before Pesach, I am more concerned about what awaits me after Yom Tov. All the issues that I have managed to close…

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Therapy or Not?

Q: My 15-year-old daughter has had issues of low self-esteem, especially in regard to academic and social issues at school.At home, she seems to feel more happy and relaxed. Because…

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My ‘Perfect’ Family

Q: Before I got married, I didn’t realize what a rigid person my husband was. Everyone praised him so highly for his hasmadah and keeping seder so well that I…

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Adult Sibling Rivalry

Q: My vision of being a grandmother had included sitting and telling stories to my grandchildren — perhaps of my life, or of their parents’ lives. I guess any idyllic…

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Deficient Social Skills

Q: My ten-year-old son has severe deficits in his social skills, and it has been very difficult to point this out to him. When I describe ways that he might…

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Assisting the Adult Single Child

Q: I have heard only too often the idea of showing a “united front” before our children (even if parents’ opinions differ). Sometimes, my husband and I have been successful…

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When a Child Feels Like a Nebach

Q: Bli ayin hara, we have a bunch of lively sons in our home — ages 2 to 15 — each with a very different temperament. My husband and I…

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Getting to School — Father-Son Conflicts

Q: I can greatly relate to the parent who complained about the difficulty of getting her teenage son out to school in the morning. My situation is a little different.…

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Overcoming Chronic, Excessive Lateness

Q: I have a 16-year-old son who is having trouble arriving to mesivta on time. He isn’t the best in learning, and his kriah is still not great. Until last…

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Appropriate Role of Grandparents

Q: In past columns, you discussed ways to speak to one’s adult children about Yom Tov visits and what to expect from them in terms of listening to their parents’…

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Step-Parenting

Q: After being divorced for two years, I have recently remarried. My ex-husband has severe mood swings and behaves inconsistently with our children. He is too easily influenced by their…

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Can I Trust Our Therapist?

Q: I am a mother of older married children from a previous marriage, and I have a 9-year-old son with my current spouse. I had a very difficult first marriage…

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Should My Son Switch To the Parallel Class?

Q: My 10-year-old son is having a difficult time with his Rebbi this year. I know that starting Gemara isn’t easy for him, as he is a very active child…

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Overcoming Disrespectful Classroom Behavior

Q: My 14-year-old son Yehoshua* has been getting in trouble in mesivta lately, due to his disrespectful attitude towards his Rebbi. Yehoshua never had this issue before with teachers, but…

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Creating Warm Family Memories

Q: I have warm childhood memories of Chanukah, and would really like my children to have similar ones. But Chanukah 5778/2017 occurs in a different world than the one I…

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