Mishmeres Hashalom

Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: My friend related the following incident: “This morning, the chazzan in our shul skipped La’menatzei’ach because he thought that it was not supposed to be said today. Then, after…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Is it permissible to lodge a complaint against a chareidi public bus driver who displays impatience and disdain towards the passengers? For example, he hastily closes the doors and…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: In the apartment across the hall from me, there is a private playgroup taught by a woman with yiras Shamayim. But on many occasions, I see and hear conduct…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I am a seventh-grader, and after next year, b’ezras Hashem, I will be starting high school. My big sisters told me that when the time for high school registration…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I returned from a wedding with a friend and commented, “The kallah’s sister looked gorgeous.” It hadn’t dawned upon me that my friend would turn her nose up and…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I suggested a specific girl as a shidduch for a boy I know, and I understood that the boy’s family is very particular about a girl’s looks, specifically that…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Before I went out on maternity leave from my job as a math teacher, I told my principal that it would be preferable that my substitute follow a specific…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: At a get-together for friends, I asked someone a yes-or-no question. The woman, however, had much to say about the matter and after replying with an irate “No!” she…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Over the past few years a lovely girl worked as my assistant pre-school teacher, and I was satisfied with her in every way. Over time, I became aware that…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Years ago, as a high school student, I spoke in a demeaning manner of hashkafah lessons taught by a prominent Rav as part of our school curriculum. I said…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As a shadchan, before making a suggestion I try to collect as much information as I can about candidates, regarding spiritual matters, personalities, mentalities, etc., in order to ensure…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I am a student in a cheder and wanted to ask: My rebbi summarizes the Gemara on the board, but it is difficult for us to understand because his…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I run a day care center in my home and would like to ask the previous babysitter about a child who applied here for next year. I am interested…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Some time ago there was a question in this column about a gemach owner who referred someone who was looking for a specific medicine, to a different borrower who…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I have a friend who is extremely particular about time. For instance, he would arrive at a wedding at the exact time written on the invitation, even though everyone…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: There are many bothersome and upsetting challenges that come up in my relationship with my mother-in-law. I discuss these difficulties with the other sister-in-law in my husband’s family, who…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I have a neighbor whose lack of tact triggers many unpleasant situations. I know that it is a mitzvah to give the benefit of the doubt and to think…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Parents of a boy asked me about my mechutanim. They told me that the father promised them full support, but they heard that he doesn’t follow through on his…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As a lawyer and notary, my job entails contacting customers and various other individuals, via email, for work-related and other issues. Is it permissible for me to show my…

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