Mishmeres Hashalom

Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: When I’m called for information about my friends for prospective shidduchim, I try to accentuate the positive. Sometimes, however, people ask questions about the girl’s traits, e.g., if she’s…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A relative called me regarding a shidduch for her daughter. Because I am aware of a serious problem in the boy’s family, I postponed my reply by asking my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: In my efforts to help my divorced niece find a suitable shidduch, I spoke to an acquaintance who I thought could be of assistance. Her first question was, “Who…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I work as a secretary at a well-known girls’ high school. An anonymous parent called to inquire about a girl in reference to a shidduch. Among other things, she…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Since my sister’s son has begun shidduchim, she often inquires about students from the seminary where I teach. I feel that as my sister, she is relying on my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As a seniors’ homeroom teacher, I am inundated with inquiries about shidduchim for former students. Sometimes I’m put on the spot to divulge information that may eventually be repeated…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Our daughter has entered the shidduch parashah, and with suggestions coming in, we want to clarify the following points: How can we tell a shadchan that we’re not pursuing…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A neighbor insulted me with hurtful words and anger bordering on fury. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt by assuming she was nervous or upset…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A neighbor of mine hired a babysitter in her home for her two children. In the interim, I’ve noticed things that would probably not sit well with her, and…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Some building committees hang notices in their lobby with details of outstanding bills for specific families. The notice serves as a reminder for household heads to pay their dues,…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: My friend mentioned something negative about new neighbors in our building and I believed what she said. Later, I realized that it was lashon hara and regretted what I…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Our neighbors are baalei teshuvah, and their grandparents from chutz laAretz have come to visit. Their grandfather wears a yarmulke and attends davening in shul, and the grandmother dresses…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I went to see my neighborhood Rav because of a problem with a neighbor. I walked in, and was surprised to see a different neighbor sitting there. I understood…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Recently, a steady client (who’s familiar with my prices) asked me to translate a document and forward it directly to his lawyer. I notified him when I finished my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As office manager, I am responsible for the smooth running of our office. Included in my job is the responsibility to update my boss regarding delays or problems in…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I attended a convention sponsored by my workplace. Towards the end of the program, all participants received a questionnaire to fill out anonymously. We were instructed to rate the…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A few years ago I was tactlessly fired from my job. At that point, I was distraught and spoke a lot of lashon hara about my former boss and…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: After an extensive search for a suitable workplace, I’m presently working as a secretary in a large office. The problem is that I have an issue with a co-worker…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: My workmates and I received bonus pay for Yom Tov. One staff member was absent that day. A worker who lives in his neighborhood was trusted to bring him…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: At my place of work, it is acceptable to use a graphologist before hiring new workers. Applicants come for an interview and fill in an application in their own…

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