Mishmeres Hashalom

Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I spoke negatively about someone, for a constructive purpose. I did so after consulting a Rav and careful deliberation. Unfortunately, the information reached the subject, who was obviously deeply…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I heard that one of my acquaintances is planning to reveal sensitive information to a friend. In the past, this individual caused me great distress by passing on my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I told Reuven specific information regarding Shimon’s family. The information was culled from the popular Interior Ministry website. Eventually I heard that though it wasn’t a secret and his…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: An acquaintance offered my name as a reference regarding a proposed shidduch and when the girl’s family called me I was in a quandary. Though I know the boy’s…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: When people inquire about someone who I know has an obvious external fault, which the other side can see on their own, should I say something about it, or…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As a shadchan, I’d like to ask a question regarding one of the most unpleasant situations in my field of practice. This happens when one side is interested in…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Recently, for shidduch purposes, someone inquired about a bachur who lives in my neighborhood and davens in our shul on a regular basis. I promised to look into the…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: When I’m called for information about my friends for prospective shidduchim, I try to accentuate the positive. Sometimes, however, people ask questions about the girl’s traits, e.g., if she’s…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A relative called me regarding a shidduch for her daughter. Because I am aware of a serious problem in the boy’s family, I postponed my reply by asking my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: In my efforts to help my divorced niece find a suitable shidduch, I spoke to an acquaintance who I thought could be of assistance. Her first question was, “Who…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I work as a secretary at a well-known girls’ high school. An anonymous parent called to inquire about a girl in reference to a shidduch. Among other things, she…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Since my sister’s son has begun shidduchim, she often inquires about students from the seminary where I teach. I feel that as my sister, she is relying on my…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: As a seniors’ homeroom teacher, I am inundated with inquiries about shidduchim for former students. Sometimes I’m put on the spot to divulge information that may eventually be repeated…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Our daughter has entered the shidduch parashah, and with suggestions coming in, we want to clarify the following points: How can we tell a shadchan that we’re not pursuing…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A neighbor insulted me with hurtful words and anger bordering on fury. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt by assuming she was nervous or upset…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: A neighbor of mine hired a babysitter in her home for her two children. In the interim, I’ve noticed things that would probably not sit well with her, and…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Some building committees hang notices in their lobby with details of outstanding bills for specific families. The notice serves as a reminder for household heads to pay their dues,…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: My friend mentioned something negative about new neighbors in our building and I believed what she said. Later, I realized that it was lashon hara and regretted what I…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: Our neighbors are baalei teshuvah, and their grandparents from chutz laAretz have come to visit. Their grandfather wears a yarmulke and attends davening in shul, and the grandmother dresses…

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Mishmeres HaSholom: Ask the Rav

Q: I went to see my neighborhood Rav because of a problem with a neighbor. I walked in, and was surprised to see a different neighbor sitting there. I understood…

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